gone...

If you have read this blog, you would know that it has the tendency to be a bit melancholy and a lot sad. I have tried to keep that from happening with every entry, but, it will be happening with this one. I received the most upsetting news about a friend and her family and it has captured my thoughts, my mood and my mental focus.

Loss of a loved one is something that I have a bit of experience with. I lost my brother and my dad within 14 months of each other and both to tragic accidents. That was tough. I have gotten many pity nods and,"I can't believe that"s, but my dear friend lost her niece and her sister/roommate in the span of a few hours. Hours. That is where my brain shuts down and my heart breaks for her.

This is the girl who came to my side when my dad died because her dad had died suddenly. The first person who was honest and told me that my life would never be the same and that it would suck for a very long time, but not forever. This is also the person who I still call roommate though we have not lived together in years. This is the person who I wish I could hug and let cry and snot on my shoulder.

I feel that if you have been through this hell that you would be given words to say or a grieving how-to. I have no more to say or to do than anyone else. I know a few of the things not to say and that not saying anything is the worst thing I can do, but, I do not have the magic to release her from this. I do know that people have helped me face the unimaginable and that I will be here to help her do the same.